SEXpress: I Don't Enjoy Receiving Oral Sex
My Shepherd Express column this week answers a question from a reader who wonders whether it’s possible for a woman to not enjoy receiving oral sex. I’m just going to say right now that if ONE person makes the comment, “Only if you’ve never slept with a lesbian,” I will Hulk-smash all the things. Lesbian-identified people: please stop saying that. I don’t care how awesome your skills are, there are some people with vulvas for whom oral sex just doesn’t provide enough or the right type of stimulation. These people are not a “challenge” for lesbians, and for lesbians to say so is, in my opinion, shaming and coercive.
SEXpress: How Do I Tell a Potential New Sexual Partner That I Have Herpes?
In my job at a college health clinic, I talk to students who have been recently told they have HSV (herpes simplex virus). Their first reaction is often, “I will never be able to have sex again. Who would want to have sex with me now?” They feel like their sex lives are over.
NOT TRUE. Herpes is not the end of your sex life. It does mean that you have to get better at talking to partners about sex, and it might mean that a higher number of sex-negative assholes are screened out of your pool of potential partners earlier than they would have been. But you can still enjoy sex, experience pleasure, and be loved, the way you DESERVE to experience pleasure and be loved.
My Shepherd Express column this week is an interview with awesome sex educator Ashley Manta, who has herpes and has great tips to share about how to talk to a new partner about this. Let her experiences heal and inspire you.
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Brand X Liquid Latex artist creating another costume at #ils2014
Box o’ dildos at #ils2014 Tantus booth!
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