SEXpress: Help! My Lube Is Burning Me
We specialize in lubricants for people with sensitivities. My SEXpress column this week answers a reader question about lubes that won’t cause burning or irritation. Will water-based, aloe-based, silicone or oil (yes, I do sometimes recommend oil!) be right for you?
SEXpress: Create Some Magic with the Magic Wand
If I get one more question that implies that having orgasms through clitoral stimulation is somehow inferior to having orgasms through vaginal penetration, I WILL LOSE MY FUCKING MIND. People criticize Betty Dodson for denying the G-spot’s existence, but THIS is why she does it — because the G-spot has basically become the new shorthand for “achieve orgasm through vaginal penetration.” Freud was a phallocentric asshole who was WRONG about women’s sexuality. Can we please move the fuck on now?
This is what I wanted to say in my latest SEXpress column — but you will see that I was much more restrained. Someone asked about using the Magic Wand for G-spot stimulation, and I answered. But I couldn’t resist putting in a paragraph about orgasm first!
Petition: Include a current student sexual assault survivor on the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault
The White House Task Force for Protecting Students from Sexual Assault must include a sexual assault survivor who is
- A student currently attending a higher education institution in the United States
- Has experience working with Title IX policy and/or
- Is an active or former complainant to the Office of Civil Rights, Cleary Act or Department of Education
The student will engage directly with members of the Task Force by providing an appropriate perspective on the impact of proposed sexual assault policies on current and future college students.
One in five women are a survivor of attempted or completed sexual violence while in college. Therefore, it is crucial for an informed representative of the people directly impacted by sexual violence to be included in the policy-making process.
I’m really proud that one of our students at Northwestern created this Tumblr in response to President Obama’s Task Force on sexual assault. Please follow and signal boost!
SEXpress: Help! I Get UTIs and Yeast Infections After Sex
My latest Shepherd Express SEXpress article answers a question from a reader who gets UTIs and yeast infections after sex. Ah, the age-old problem. This is not uncommon, and there are several different reasons this could be happening.
Thoughts on ‘Frozen’
I decided to ignore anything pertaining to the film ‘Frozen’ a long time ago - the misrepresentation of the Saami in it, or rather the combination of misinformation and problematic myth-making in it did not appeal to me at all, I had already explained why I disapproved of the bastardisation of our…
As a Norwegian-American queer feminist, I liked many things about Frozen. I really appreciate this post about the racism and cultural appropriation in the film that I did not even notice due to my white privilege and ignorance of Saami culture. Disney is always one step forward, two steps back. Thank you to the author.
SEXpress: "Oscars of Porn" Recognizes Plus-Size Performers
Last weekend, the annual AVN Awards introduced the category of BBW Performer of the Year for the first time ever (won by the legendary April Flores). I have mixed feelings about this new award, ranging from “What took them so long?” to “Does this mean only skinny people can win Performer of the Year?” This week’s Shepherd Express SEXpress column discusses…
SEXpress: My Ability to Have an Orgasm Changes with My Partners
My SEXpress column this week answers a question about why the same sex position feels great with one partner, but “meh” with another. Sex is a LOT more than just mechanics, and our feelings/level of trust with different partners definitely affects our ability to experience pleasure!